The concept of soulmates has been around since forever. But then, in a world with billions of other humans, is it possible that there is “one” person out there for you?
- Do you believe soulmates are real?
- Is the entire belief about soulmates real or is it just a fleeting illusion?
As it turns out, this topic has always been controversial.
But while there are no mathematical models to explain how these things work, human history and psychology lend some credence to the possibility of someone out there being your “matching half.” Whether you’re trying to find your soulmate or wondering whether soulmates are even real in the first place, this article will lead you in the right direction.
What exactly are soulmates?
What do you mean when you say soulmate? Well, let’s look at two different definitions.
Merriam Webster says a soulmate is “a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament”. And according to Dictionary.com, a soulmate is “a person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond”.
While both of these mean the same thing at the core, the latter definition by Dictionary.com kinda explains this concept better although there’s more to what soulmates share than just values, tastes, and a romantic bond.
Your soulmate is an ideal match for you. They are your true connection and when they come along, you’ll feel it in your gut. This person understands you like they’ve known you forever and you can always be sure of their unconditional love. They are your best friend and it’s almost too easy for you to stay calm and at ease around them.
The soulmate thing is deep. It’s deeper than temporary flings and initial chemistry and stronger than anything you can experience “at first sight.” While it’s not the relationship will be all rosy and fun all through, they are down for you whenever and ready to contribute to the success of the relationship through relationship trials and tribulations.
How real is the idea of soulmates?
A Marist poll conducted a survey some time ago. Results from that survey showed that no less than 73% of Americans believe in the concept of soulmates. That way more than the 27% who believe the idea is just an illusion.
If we’ll go by this poll, we can conclude that soulmates must be real since the larger majority of people believe in the idea. But perhaps we need something else to support the possibility of the existence of this kind of relationship?
The problem here is that there’s no science to explain whether or not this is real. But since when have we been able to deploy science to explain concepts and ideas beyond the physical realm? If there is no clear scientific proof that this exists, how then can we know whether it’s true?
Here’s the secret: your beliefs shape your reality. Whether or not you believe in soulmates would impact how you seek and manage your relationships. For the majority of the people who hold this belief that there is someone out there meant for them; to them, this notion about a soulmate is the essence of true love upon which relationships and marriages need to be built.
It is, however, important to clear the air on what your expectations of a soulmate are. A soulmate does not necessarily mean a “perfect person” because there really is no perfect person. The key thing is that the soulmate compliments you and is more like the other half that makes you whole.
Tips for finding your soulmate
Now that we know what a soulmate is and what it isn’t, how about we share some tips for those readers who are still waiting to find their soulmate? How can you find the “one”? Here are some of the best tips we recommend:
1. Keep an open mind
You only know what you know. So, it’s always better to keep an open mind when you’re on the lookout for the right person. This is because sometimes, people who you never thought could be good for you might turn out to be the best for you.
2. Discover who you are
While you probably have a picture in your head of what your ideal soulmate should be, it also makes sense to discover who you are before you enter into this potentially-life changing relationship. Who are you? What do you need in your ideal relationship? How can you make your relationships work? Proper self-awareness is key when preparing yourself for your soulmate.
3. Manifest your soulmate
Remember when we said your beliefs create your reality? That’s the basis of the Law of Attraction. You can manifest your soulmate using the Law of Attraction. Visualize it. Indulge in your vision. Affirm it.
4. Seek personal fulfillment
You should be satisfied with yourself before hooking up with a soulmate.
This is why we advise anyone, whether they’re still looking for their soulmate or on the verge of marriage, to always seek personal fulfillment. You need to find and fulfill your own happiness first. Then you can fulfill your soulmate’s happiness when they finally come along.
5. Make the right changes in your life
Relationships require some work and responsibility from both parties.
These are also required when you’re tying your destiny in marriage with another person. Before any of these, it makes sense to make the right changes in your life to ensure your relationship stands the test of time. Adopt healthy habits, practice flexibility and objectivity, and make positive lifestyle changes you want.
6. Be prepared to identify “the one”
You have to know when you’ve found “the one.”
Your instincts will kick in and you’ll know you’ve finally found them. You’ll feel super calm and at ease around them. You know they share similar goals, aspirations, and life views with you. Both of you would be comfortable with your flaws and should feel safe and protected in each other’s company. Somehow, you’ll know!
Conclusion
Love is the bomb and it’s a beautiful feeling when it’s true.
Finding “the one” among many can be quite a challenge, but it’s one of those kinds of prizes that are worth all the effort.
If you’re still searching for your soulmate, we recommend keeping an open mind and setting realistic expectations that are not based on society’s often foolish and unrealistic assumptions.
Connect with yourself on a deeper level and seek proper self-awareness and fulfillment.
Know who you are and learn what you need to make your relationship flourish when it finally happens. In essence, what we’re trying to say is that while we believe soulmates are real, you need to try to be the soulmate so they can be yours too!